A system for detecting the tube tip of the flying boom of a tanker aircraft and the receptacle mouth of the receiver for semi-automatic or automatic contact for in-flight aerial refueling with a boom, which does not incorporate signaling devices installed on the receiver aircraft, wherein the system and associated method are robust and ensure that the tanker boom control system is provided with real-time, robust, reliable and simultaneous information, from the tip of the tube thereof and from the receiver aircraft's receptacle mouth, at all times. To this end, the system comprises: 1) light emitters mounted on the tip of the tube thereof, 2) a processing subsystem and 3) two 3D cameras, including a TOF camera or a DOE-type camera (or both), as well as at least one laser L to provide them with their specific functionality.