A computer-based communications system is provided. In aspects of the invention, the computer-based communications system is configured to adjust a time period for delaying a message from being sent by a user. A message is drafted by a user to be sent to a recipient. A selection is received for send the message to the recipient. A time period is adjusted for sending the message to the recipient based on user-centric considerations where the time period for delaying sending the message is not explicitly specified by the user. The message is delayed being sent for the time period. After the time period, the message is sent to the recipient.