A friction engagement element control system is provided, which includes a friction engagement element including friction plates, which are an input-side friction plate and an output-side friction plate, and an actuation system configured to engage the input-side friction plate with the output-side friction plate with a pushing force, the friction plates having a characteristic in which a friction coefficient thereof decreases as a rotational difference between the friction plates increases. The device includes a controller configured to control the pushing force so that the negative slope characteristic becomes a positive slope characteristic in which a frictional force of the friction engagement element decreases as the rotational difference decreases, when engaging the friction engagement element.