A system and method for providing server identification to accept a server request in a vehicle wireless communications system. If the server wishes to send a request for a certain function to the vehicle, it will transmit the request and the vehicle will receive the request. If the vehicle receives a valid vehicle identification number, the vehicle will then ask the server to disconnect the communications link. The server will disconnect the communications link, and wait for the vehicle to call the server directly within a predetermined time window to confirm that it was in fact a valid server making the request. If the server confirms that it was the one making the initial request, the vehicle will perform the function.