Mechanisms for communication between host systems using a socket connection and shared memories are provided. With such socket-based communication, a work queue in the host systems may be used to listen for incoming socket initialization requests. A first host system that wishes to establish a socket communication connection with a second host system may generate a socket initialization request work queue element in its work queue and may inform the second host system that the socket initialization request work queue element is available for processing. The second host system may then accept or deny the request. If the second host system accepts the request, it returns the second half of the socket's parameters for use by the first host system in performing socket based communications between the first and second host systems.