A terminal, server and method for storing and selectively retrieving SIP-based messages, are discussed. According to an embodiment, the present invention provides a method for controlling a SIP-based message by a control server, which includes receiving a SIP-based message; determining a manner in which the SIP-based message is to be processed based on user preference information; transmitting the SIP-based message and indication information to a storage server based on the determination result, the indication information indicating if the SIP-based message is to be sent back with link information, the link information including a reference to the SIP-based message; receiving a part of the SIP-based message and the link information from the storage server; and transmitting the part of the SIP-based message and the link information to a terminal, whereby the SIP-based message can be selectively retrieved.