A system, method, electronic device and server are provided for metering electronic messages and for managing message traffic within an organization. An electronic message resistance value is stored for recipients within an organization. When a message is composed and addressed at a sending terminal, the electronic message resistance value may be retrieved and displayed at the sending terminal. The message server receiving the composed message for transmission to the recipient sends the message to the recipient in accordance with a priority determined based on the recipient's electronic message resistance; for example, the message may be sent with a low priority attribute, or the transmission of the message to the recipient may be delayed for a set period of time.