The present invention provides an optical coupling member and an optical connector using the optical coupling member, capable of improving the efficiency of an assembly work of the optical connector and positioning optical fibers in the optical connector with high accuracy. The optical coupling member (10) has: holding members (11) for being able to hold optical fibers (21) that are inserted from insertion holes (11a) formed at end parts; lenses housed in housing parts formed at opposite end parts of the holding members (11); and a joining member (13) for connecting the holding members (11) as aligned in parallel to each other, the joining member being formed of an elastic material.