Methods of etching silicon nitride faster than silicon or silicon oxide are described. Methods of selectively depositing additional material onto the silicon nitride are also described. Exposed portions of silicon nitride and silicon oxide may both be present on a patterned substrate. A self-assembled monolayer (SAM) is selectively deposited over the silicon oxide but not on the exposed silicon nitride. Molecules of the self-assembled monolayer include a head moiety and a tail moiety, the head moiety forming a bond with the OH group on the exposed silicon oxide portion and the tail moiety extending away from the patterned substrate. A subsequent exposure to an etchant or a deposition precursor may then be used to selectively remove silicon nitride or to selectively deposit additional material on the silicon nitride.